The link between business relationships and dating – parallels

Is there a link between business relationships and dating? Definitely.

My 5 rules for dating or business relationship success….

1. The courtesy test. If somebody performs an act of chivalry, for example open a door for a lady, then courtesy dictates they should acknowledge it – with a smile, a nod or something to indicate they area aware of the action and appreciate it. In business is someone does something special for you – acknowledge it. Whether with your employees or clients, manners cost nothing but honest appreciation is invaluable. We all need to be acknowledged. It costs so little but has a large impact.

2. The Humanity test. How they treat someone they consider “less than” themselves. Eg. Waiters, waitresses, busboys etc. If they treat them as a human being, it is a good sign, if they snap their fingers and yell at them like they are meaningless, it is a sign you could be next. If on a date, on their best behaviour with you, and they treat people like that, be aware, they will probably treat you badly soon. Long-term business relationships require manners, empathy and the ability to relate to each other as human beings. Communicating with them to improve the relationship is also is valuable … no change happens without awareness.

How do you communicate?

3. The kiss test. The link between business relationships and dating when it comes to kissing is that kisses are a form of communication. If they kiss badly they are not paying attention to the subtle signals. In business if they don’t pay attention to the communication the relationship will falter.

4. The holiday test. Before you get engaged, married or even move in together, you should go on a long holiday together for at least 6 days. Some people can maintain a facade for a few days, a long weekend or for an extended period, but if you are together 24/7 for more than 4 days the cracks in the facade will show. In business some people can maintain the façade of caring or service, but in time their true character will emerge.

5. Offer more than you ask for. Many ask for a lot in who they are looking for in a date. He/she must be gorgeous, wealthy, great in bed, confident, pay for everything, etc … Do we offer as much value and quality? Is there balance? In business we want others to offer us value, pay on time, etc … Do we offer as much or more? Under promise and over deliver!

Is there a link between business relationships and dating? Yes.

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Richard Riche

Change Communication and Employee Engagement specialist at One Clear Message Consulting

Richard specialises in helping you build real human communication skills. Employee Engagement / Experience, Emotional Intelligence skills, building high performance teams and a great place you want to work. TED style speaking and presentation skills. Training, consulting and coaching.